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Don't Cry Over Spilled Coffee

Coffee spill cartoon


There's not much to say about this cartoon, except that the events depicted in the cartoon did happen. I was also really surprised when I cared more about my coffee than I did about spilling it on myself (the coffee wasn't too hot at the time thankfully). I knew I had been powering through trying to get more stuff done than was humanly possible - but even I hadn't realized that I had reached that level of fatigue. 

It's all good though and I'm in the process of changing a few things. Unfortunately, it's going to take awhile before I'm finished everything I have promised to deliver and I'm going to be busier than I would like. Until then I get back to a more comfortable pace, I'm going to have to start taking great care of myself instead of relying on caffeine to get me through!
If you're at all like me and have this ridiculous tendency to bite off more than you can chew - it's so important to pay attention to all the little signs that tell you it's time to scale back. They can include (but are not limited to) overreacting to small disappointments, increased anxiety and jitteriness, poor concentration, decreased resistance to bad habits and more. When I suggest better self-care (and outline a plan) with my clients they notice that many of the original problems they came to see me about start to improve because they were symptoms of a deeper problem - exhaustion. 
Keep looking for those little clues and make adjustments where necessary to get your life back in balance. Then enjoy your coffee because you enjoy it not because you need it.


Momma Fasionista


I woke up before everyone else this morning and snuck down to my office to try and think of a Mother's Day cartoon. No matter what I sketched, nothing seemed to really come to me. I was totally blank.

Then the kids woke up.

I was showered with a friendship bracelet that spells out, "You are great," an #1 Mom button, a bracelet with glued on jewels, a planter with a mystery plant, and a baby apple tree in a hand painted (maybe finger painted) pot. 


Needless to say I loved my presents and my girls loved that I wore the jewellery out of the house. My 9 year old asked if I thought people would know that I was wearing the jewellery to make them happy and I replied that I was wearing it to make me happy - that I'm not really concerned about about what anyone thinks. Her smile got bigger.

Whether you're a biological mother or not - for me Mother's Day is about remembering all of the people in our lives who encourage and nurture us. Those awesome people who have supported us and helped achieve things we never thought possible. If there is someone like that in your life, take a moment to tell them how grateful you are for having them in your life and if you have been that for others, be sure to let yourself receive some of that love back today.


What's Good for You

Logical descions aren't always the best decisions. Sometimes you have to make choices based on your heart's desire - like when you choose a life partner, ice cream flavor or a career. 

There is no such thing as a good career - a physician could be a great career if you love it or the worst career imaginable if you don't . Same goes for law, engineering, nursing or counselling careers. 

Ideally, you want to make choices where your skills, interests and enthusiasm are all high - we all need to work with our hearts and heads. If you have to choose one or the other, then the heart is the way to go. You will always be willing do the the hard work necessary to excel in your field if you love what you do compared to the mediocre job you would do in a career that was supposed to be good but where you had no interest. 

Life is too short to do something you don't love and if you're lucky enough to know what that it then it's important that you figure out a way to go and do it!


Steamed Vegetables and Forcing Outcomes

I drew this cartoon about 3 years ago - and then I couldn't think of a caption. I don't know why I liked this little drawing so much but I kept trying every now and then to think of something to go with it. Every single time I tried I got frustrated and came up with nothing.

Like so many things in life, trying harder to force an outcome just didn't work. 

I didn't exactly give up on this little cartoon. I decided to let it sit in my sketchbook, hoping one day it would hit me. 

That day was yesterday morning. I woke up after an exceptionally long sleep (think I might need to get my iron checked but that's another story) and the first two words that popped into my head were, "Steamed vegetables". Then a few expletives and a wave of relief. 

It's not the cleverest line or the funniest - but it's kind of cute like the picture and it works for me. The best part is I don't have to think about it anymore. It didn't take up too much of my time, but it was in the back of my mind and I'm happy to have some closure on the issue.

We all have so many problems to solve and whether they are big or small, I find that trying harder rarely produces immediate solutions. More often than not what is required is patience to wait until something clicks but the tenacity to gently keep up the effort until it does (or doesn't).


Inspiring Change


Most of us hope there is going to be a time that we want to clean our house, work out, eat a spinach salad for lunch everyday and learn to speak Japanese. The truth is that, if we simply wait for that day, it will NEVER happen. 

We have to make it happen by cultivating our motivation (even better if we can cultivate inspiration). We have to remind ourselves of the good reasons that we want to do something that is good for us and stop doing something that will harm us in the long run. 

If it's fun and good for you - then it's kind of a no brainer. 

If it's not fun and bad for you (like maybe your job or spending time with people who suck the life out of you) it's still kind of a no brainer - but you might have to practice saying no when you feel pressure to say yes.

If you want to exercise and eat healthfully then you have to feel connected to your reasons for wanting that more than anything - particularly in your weakest moments. Remind yourself that you want to live a long healhty life, keep up with your kids, walk up stairs without getting winded or fit back into your favorite jeans.

If you want to stop doing something that you have a hard time resisting then you have to work hard to resist the urge until the habit or craving diminishes. You can make it easier on yourself but using imcompatible behaviours to use whenever the craving strikes (like going for a workout when you would rather smoke). Again, it can also help to make your list of reasons for really, really wanting to stop and read it over everyday. 

When you are trying to make big changes, it's important to be kind to yourself throughout the process. We all struggle and most of us make several attempts to do what's hard but good for us before we figure it out. Knowing what to do is easy - figuring out how to do it takes patience and determination!